I Married My Rapist

I MARRIED MY RAPIST: I don't think anyone deserved to be treated like me...

I was in school at that time, and I was struggling to cope with my studies, and I had to take care of my ill uncle. I wasn't concerned about anything else. My goal was just to graduate with a good degree. He, too, attended the same university. We didn't talk that much, but I did get some signals that he liked me and wanted to date me. But he never once confessed it. I was in my third year when my uncle passed away. And practically, I had to live alone since my father ran away with another woman and my mother left me for my late uncle while I was still a kid. I have no one to rely on, no relative to take care of me. I had no choice but to stay in a hostel.

One day, it was raining, and he offered me a ride to an Ibom E-library to read. After some hours of studying inside the library, I had no idea about the time or the weather. I had to say yes to him since it was dark and I didn't bring my umbrella. That was when he raped me- in his car. I was disturbed by that incident that I tried to cut my wrist, but all my attempts ended up in failure. I was in deep depression, and all I thought about was how to survive.

Then he started to manipulate me and force me to marry him. He would usually ask, 'who's going to take care of you since you have no family now?' or 'how are you going to survive in this world with no one by your side?' or 'do you know-how are the people going to look at you if they knew you were raped? They wouldn't stand by you; they probably think you're cooking up a story to extort some money from me.' and 'no one would believe what you say.

Eventually, I got to marry him, thinking there was no way I could live out in this world. But I thank God I didn't bear any kids with him. Thinking about an innocent soul being born without love scared the hell out of me for all those years. It took me two years to realize that I could stand and own my own two feet. I got an education; I can get a job if I apply for one. I won't starve. I wouldn't die. I divorced him, and now I'm working as a record keeper in Archive record and management limited. I'm only 23, and I still haven't given up hope in love. I'm still waiting for the one.

PS: Sorry for my anonymity. I am comfortable with myself and hopeful about my future, but it's gonna take a while for me to embrace my past. Appreciation πŸ‘‡ You have no idea how many encouragements each and everyone's comment gave me in my last post title, how I fought against rape at age 10. I am truly thankful for the emotional support I received from people, and I'm blessed with people who wish me luck and happiness. I wish the same to you too. Regarding the question about the man whom I've been married to for two years, I did report him to the police. But he got off easily using his money and influence.

However, that didn't break me down. I believe the hardest punishment anyone could give to him is no other than him. There will be a time he'll regret his actions. His own conscience will punish him. He took everything from me; he played with my emotions, and he blackmailed me. He did all the horrible things I never thought of. There was not even one minute I was happy when I was married to him. I constantly trembled, screamed, and had nightmares almost every night, and severe depression hit me. I was suicidal.

Final note:❀️ For all the women out there who had a similar fate as mine, Let go of your past. And don't give up. The world has much more to offer. This is definitely not the end. We are much stronger than we think we are. I'll be rooting for all of you. For future parents to be, please educate your son to respect a woman. Teach him how to treat a woman. We are not a piece of meat. Respect is the greatest form of love.

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