Kindness To People Will Make Your Children To Excel In Future

Some weeks back, precisely on the 5th of October, 2022, I was going to the office, and my car suddenly developed a fault around Radio Kwara A.M Station. I looked for a mechanic around to repair it, and I found one who professionally navigated the car into his nearby shop.

On getting there, he instructed one of his apprentices to open the car bonnet and bring out the jerk and wheel spanner. After bringing it out and in the process of closing the bonnet, he ( maybe intentionally or unintentionally) ferociously smashed the car bonnet. The next thing I heard was a huge slap on the face of the apprentice by his boss. Afterward, he began to insult the apprentice.

The first insult was, " Why did you smash the bonnet like that? Has anyone in your family bought a car before? You, this poor-for-nothing boy.... the abject poverty in your family, will not allow you to appreciate luxury.......... blablabla... " I was bewildered. What could have prompted such unkind tongue-lashing on the boy? I wondered! The boy was excruciatingly pained by the insult repeatedly rained on him by his boss. I moved closer to the scene of the incident and asked the boss, "Oga, is it because of this old car I'm using that you are abusing the generation of this boy? Your reaction to this boy is harsh and needless. Though I'm not against disciplining him, what is coming out of your mouth is enough to make this boy commit suicide if he is the type that is emotionally sensitive" The boss was shocked! I imagined in my mind why someone would be insulting another person's generation over a car that was manufactured in 2000, and probably the first owner had forgotten he had used such a car.

Afterward, I was looking for a way to at least pacify the boy without the knowledge of his boss. His boss was still angry! Repair work was ongoing on the car. All my ploys to have one-on-one interaction with the boy failed because his boss wouldn't allow him to move an inch. I needed to devise new tactics to actualize my plan. And yes, it came. After I noticed that the initial tension had been doused, I called the boy to go and buy airtime for me, at least to emancipate him from the shackles of his angry boss. I gave him N500 and instructed him to buy me MTN N200. After he left, I moved away from the mechanic shop and then sat at a nearby vulcanizer shop. I wanted to make sure I had one-on-one interaction with her without his boss knowing. I was still pained by the insult thrown at him by his boss. After a couple of minutes, I saw him coming. I signaled him to notice where I sat. After giving me the airtime and the remaining N300 change, I returned the change to him and instructed him to use it to eat lunch. He smiled and said, "Thank you, sir." He wanted to leave, and I called him; I apologized for what his boss had done to him and promptly advised him to be on good behavior in subsequent engagements. He smiled again and left. The smile on his face was what I actually wanted because little children are difficult to offend.

I once remembered a similar incident that happened to me when I was in JSS 1 at Ilorin Comprehensive High School (ICOHS) back in the year 2000. My parents always gave me transport fare that would transport me from Baboko to school and back home. On this particular day, my dad gave me N100 in the morning before he left for Kwara State Polytechnic, where he worked as a senior lecturer at that time. Yes, N100 was enough for transport fare and lunch at that time because taxi boarding was N20.

After putting my bag at the back and about trekking from our house to Baboko to board a cab, I met one of our eldest brothers, brother Yusuf having a conversation with one of our neighbors then (Name withheld due to the sensitivity of the story being narrated). The neighbor was inside his car, probably driving to his office at Geri Alimi. He was a baby lawyer at that time. After brother Yusuf finished his conversation with him, and the lawyer was about to zoom off, he saw me coming out of the house and probably knew my destination to that of the lawyer was similar. He told the lawyer to carry me along since we were going in the same direction. I entered the car, and when we got to the General Hospital roundabout, he said, "Abdulmumeen, do not think because I assisted you with the lift today, you should go and wait for me tomorrow because I will not lift you if you wait for me. I don't want my car to be dirty". I was startled by his outburst. I hated insults right from my childhood, and I imagined I was the one who stopped him from giving me a car lift. I wanted to tell him to drop me right there at the General Hospital roundabout in order to take another cab to school, but I decided otherwise in order not to create an obscene scene. That was over 22years ago!

Early this year, I was at home when the lawyer came along with his daughter, who was seeking admission into a particular nursing school in Kwara here. He had earlier called to locate where I reside. On getting to my house, he started narrating the difficulty and ordeal being faced as regards securing admission for his teenage girl. According to him, he heard from the community that I am in charge of facilitating admission for youth in the constituency. He further lamented that it was almost three years that they had been trying, but all to no avail. I assured him that this time around, his effort would not be fruitless. As he was about to leave, I wanted to test the potency of his memory. And I asked, "Sir, do you remember that you once took me in your car to Geri Alimi some years back?". And he responded, "No, I do not remember; what year was that?" he inquired! I told him that I was just joking, and he eventually left with his daughter. Yes, he had forgotten.

There's one Yoruba adage that says, "The person who defecated would have forgotten, but the person who stepped his or her toes on the feces would never forget." So, the rejected stone 22years ago is now the cornerstone 22years after???. The Almighty God Who created the universe is a wonderful God. I did all I could to make sure the teenage girl got admission, and Almighty God crowned my efforts. Lastly, the same model of car he abused me with over 22years ago is the car I am presently using. What a coincidence!

LESSON FROM THIS WHOLE STORY!

Sometimes in life, human beings do engage in dehumanizing acts without knowing their consequences in the future. We need to learn to be good to people irrespective of their poor background or present pitiable phase. Life is turned by turn. And besides, God's blessing is rotational. That you are blessed today doesn't mean you are better or pray better than others. Whatever you have today in terms of houses, cars, and other luxuries would fade in no time, but the kind gesture you rendered would forever be in vogue. The same way Mercedes Benz is longer in vogue today is the same way Venza and Toyota Jeep will no longer be in vogue in 20 years' time. It's a foolish human who is always arrogant because of material things. Learn to build people. Those people you build today will always accord you and your children respect in the future. 

Lastly, public office, political office, private office, or civil service is an avenue to make a good name for yourself and your family. It's not an avenue to turn yourself into an EMPEROR because nothing is permanent in life. Even it's an overstep of the boundary to be called Permanent Secretary because there's no Secretary that is permanent. It is just a hoax! Make an impact in people's lives today and see how your children will flourish in the future!

Abdulmumeen Abdulrazaq

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